Oyin,

I have been irrational, hasty and inexperienced. I ought to have taken my time to learn and be your friend first.

All i wanted was just to get it started and be happy to say i was in a relationship too. But alas, it ought to have been line upon line, precept upon precepts.

I thought our friendship over the years was enough to see us through, but i was mistaken. I thought we knew each other well enough hence tried to rush you but got rushed out instead.

I remember you voiced your concerns about the pace i was moving, your reservations to it…but i was too blindsided to see the warning signs,to carried away to realize it was a different ball game altogether.

I have learnt lessons, and i have learnt in bitter ways that has taught me that, a hot plate of soup is not hastily taken, and a relationship is a building project, you start with the foundations first, followed by the superstructure and on and on till its complete.

My thought is best captured by R. Kelly in his song, “If i could turn back the hands of time”:

“How did I ever let you slip away

Never knowing I’d be singing this song some day
And now I’m sinking, sinking to rise no more
Ever since you closed the door

If I could turn, turn back the hands of time
Then my darlin’ you’d still be mine
If I could turn, turn back the hands of time
Then darlin’ you, you’d still be mine

Funny, funny how time goes by
And blessings are missed in the wink of an eye
Why oh why oh why should one have to go on suffering
When every day I pray please come back to me”

I misplaced my priorities….tried to put the roof over the building when the foundation was not complete..and the result……….

Can i be your friend again…..can we turn back the hands of time…and lets set the priorities straight…

“Darlin’ I can’t explain

Where did we lose our way
Girl it’s drivin’ me insane
And I know I just need one more chance
To prove my love to you
If you come back to me
I’ll guarantee
That I’ll never let you go

Can we go back to the days our love was strong
Can you tell me how a perfect love goes wrong
Can somebody tell me how to get things back
The way they used to be
Oh God give me a reason
I’m down on bended knee
I’ll never walk again until you come back to me
I’m down on bended knee

So many nights I dreamt
Holding my pillow tight
I know that I don’t need to be alone
When I open up my eyes
To face reality
Every moment without you
It seems like eternity
I’m begging you, begging you come back to me

Can we go back to the days our love was strong
Can you tell me how a perfect love goes wrong
Can somebody tell me how to get things back
The way they used to be
Oh God give me a reason
I’m down on bended knee
I’ll never walk again until you come back to me
I’m down on bended knee

I’m gonna swallow my pride
Say I’m sorry
Stop pointing fingers the blame is on me
I want a new life
And I want it with you
If you feel the same
Don’t ever let it go
You gotta believe in the spirit of love
It’ll heal all things
It won’t hurt any more
No I don’t believe our love’s terminal
I’m down on my knees begging you please
Come home

Can we go back to the days our love was strong
Can you tell me how a perfect love goes wrong
Can somebody tell me how to get things back
The way they used to be
Oh God give me a reason
I’m down on bended knee
I’ll never walk again until you come back to me
I’m down on bended knee

Wanna build a new life
Just you and me
Gonna make you my wife
Raise a family”

I want to look back over the years and say, you are still my friend no matter what…;)

Jide.